Only 4 days to the weekend


   It was an okay day today. Spike was in a good mood, which is always worrying. Nothing out of the ordinary happened at all. Quite boring really. I did manage to get 3 bottles of £7.98 wine for a tenner at Asda, which was good. They were also doing 660ml bottles of Cobra lager at £1.00 a bottle. That is under a £1.00 a pint for a premium brew.

   Youngest is kicking off. Twenty past eleven at night, and he is bouncing round his room, hurting anyone he can get his hands on.  It is like the weekend never happened.

   Leeds Utd are playing Liverpool tomorrow, at home. A reliable source informs me that Liverpool won’t be playing their best team. They can always take us when we get to Anfield. The match is on Sky HD, so I may get to watch it. But then again, the best laid plans etc etc. Leeds are doing really well in the league. If I have my stats correct, it’s eight wins and a draw. However, there is a whole lot of difference between beating Gillingham 4 – 1 and taking on the top end of the Premier League. Football eh !!

   We are not sure if S**** is coming over for the quiz tomorrow. He said last week that he might, but that may have just been to keep Mrs H happy.

   Think the youngest has calmed down now. It has gone very quiet, but that is sometimes the quiet before the storm. I don’t care what the experts say, there is not always a trigger. Then again, they will always argue, that just because we do not see the trigger, does not mean there isn’t one. How many times have we heard that one ? It appears to me that the ‘trigger’ is telling him to ‘stop’ or ‘no’. That seems to make him react more. But what do you do when he is driving his chin into your shoulder, and telling him to stop makes him worse ?

All done …. well for six months anyway


The appraisal went much as expected. A 10 minute trip down memory lane into what my objectives were (memo: ‘I already knew’), why they were picked (memo: see previous memo) and why they were not fully met (memo: ‘we knew they wouldn’t be’). Then we moved into patronising mode, where we discussed my strengths and weaknesses . This meaningless exchange lasted a good 25 minutes. And the outcome ……… nothing has changed since last time, but ‘I’m working on my weaknesses’. I have been doing so for the past 40 years or so. Then came my objectives (or jobs that I have to do because my line-manager can’t). These were basically to continue the ones before, plus one more. Now why on earth it took another 20 minutes to complete that part, I have no idea. That is it until the six monthly review, when we will go through the same thing again.

The situation with Mrs H and the eldest, is beginning to improve. She seemed a little happier this evening. They had all been to her sisters for my Mum-in-laws birthday, and S**** had come along too. He was not well yesterday.  Apparently, he had had a pizza on Tuesday night, and was ill after it. Now I remember being his age, and experiencing the very same type of illness on a regular basis. You go out, have 16 pints of beer, followed by a curry/kebab, and it is the food that always makes you ill !!!! I don’t think she slept too well last night worrying about him. I honestly believe she thought he had swine flu’.

Youngest has just had an ‘episode’. He has been great all day, then it comes to go to bed and he kicks off. All the Autism experts say there is a trigger, but quite often it is nothing that can be indentified. The droning starts, then the violence kicks in, and it is often 20 minutes before settles down. Tonight it seems to be taking a lot longer. The violence seems to increase when you try to stop it. It is as if he needs to hurt you, and his anger will not subside until he has. But the reason for the anger is not obvious. One of the annoying things is though, that the experts always look to you as if you are the cause. We spoke to one of the ‘experts’ some time ago, someone from the Disability Team, and when Mrs H said that often the anger is directed at me, the ‘expert’ turned to me and asked me ‘why did I think he directed it at me?’ Or in other words … it must be my fault.

Last day tomorrow. Hopefully we will have a reasonable week. I hope the weather picks up again. It will be quite a miserable week if we get the rain we had last time I was off. R*** has been quite amenable this week. Let’s hope it continues (apart from the bad parts of course).

Thought I had bagged a bargain tonight. I need to but some more RAM for my PC. It has 1.5gb, but I want to get it up to the maximum 2gb (it’s a 4 year old PC.) I bought the last lot from Play.com for about £16.00. When it worked, I though I would get 1gb, but the price had rocketed to £34.00. However, when I checked the site today, there was an offer, for the same RAM as before, at £17.00. Too good to be true ??? Well yes and no. They were out of stock, and there was no indication when the new stock would come in. So I left it, but I will keep checking, as that extra 1/2gb will make a lot of difference.

That’s it. Seem to have gone on a little tonight, but it has been an interesting (and I use the word lightly) day.

… and so to Friday


Well that’s another week over. It seems to have been a long one too. I put that down to the expectation of a ‘Spike Free’ 6 days next week. It is really sad, that everyone can so look forward to his leave, more than their own !! A measure of his popularity.

No walk today (again). The weather was a bit hit Council office - Cross Greenand miss at lunchtime, and I did not feel like it when I got home. I’m not really  trying am I ? I did try and walk at lunchtime though. I got as far as the roundabout just outside, before it started. I’m posting a picture of the place we ‘work’ in. Doesn’t it look grand ?

Youngest has just had an ‘episode’. No apparent reason or trigger. It seems to make him worse, if we try and tell him to stop. Maybe’ ‘stop’ is a trigger !!! It lasted about 5 minutes, although it seemed a lot longer.

The ‘move out day’ draws ever closer. Managed to get a couple of packing boxes, and he started to pack a few things. It’s going to take a lot more effort though. He is handing his notice in tomorrow. They have not been very helpful. He/we thought that they might have been able to find him a job in Leeds. But, they don’t seem to be bothered. Mind you, he’s not exactly actively looking for anything at the moment. I feel he may be starting to realise what is going to happen when he moves out. K*** has sorted out the contents insurance, and I think he is beginning to appreciate how difficult it is going to be. But they say ‘that is part of the experience’. I’m glad I did not go through it.

All done for now.